So came Jan 15th,

She arrived early morning at 4 am, a day late thanks to the snowstorms and chill across the east coast lashing for past couple of years. I was there to pick her up from Airport at ahemdabad, Had a spring in my step eager to see her in person for the first time. We were to get married on 16th Jan 2014.

The first moment wasnt as magical as the bollywood movies show. Ya I am a hopeless romantic.

But there was happiness all around, excited to see each other and of course Puran the sweet little sone of kinnari.

Every thing was hunky dory during marriage as expected. Though it was planned as a simple garland exchange cermony but it was Pleasent.

AFter thecermony we went to our native godess which is located inthe middle of GIR Forest, We had darshan and spent an extra day for the safari trip for Puran. I wanted to show him all the places I love.

Then we came back to Ahemdabad, and took a train to Adoni Place where our family has been settled for 3 generations, where i was born and grew up, where my parents still stay.

We spent couple of days there finished some rituals and then I returned to Pune, with Kinnari and Puran,

I took them to mumbai to meet her relatives, Met my boss and other friends, a normal fresh couple does.

I always used to tell her that I do not want to settle in US and she used to tell me its just a matter of 3/4 years until Puran's custody. Then all 3 of us can return to India.

Jan 30th came in and it was close to her returning to US. we went to Ahd and went to her native village as she wanted to seeit. I went overboard to ensure she gets best of facilities everywhere.

and February 2nd was tearful good bye. All 3 of us had connected so much, especially me and puran, we couldnt help but create a scene at the Airport tearfully saying our good byes.

Ramblings of a displaced person

Prologue

I am one of those average indians, good at jugaad, Did my bachelors degree in Bcom, like most gujju boys, started working and grew up the ladder. 10 years down the career path I got in to Executive course from Indian institute of management and graduated with flying colour. I shifted my career from Logistics back to his old company in Food industry. 

Life seemed set I was doing quite more than I ever expected in life. Earning a 6 figure salary I was quite content. except on my personal life. I was nearing 35 and wasn't married, Lacked a partner with whom i can share all my happiness. 

With the age dawning upon me I registered on one of the matrimonial sites and started meeting prospective partners. Sometimes I was rejected and sometimes i rejected. but irrespective of rejections always ended up being good friends with most of the members I met on the site. 

I was looking for some one who was content with what they have in life rather than chasing those mirages created by marketing teams of corporates which make one feel that our life is utterly useless if we don't have them in life. I was looking for a person who valued small things in life. 

Then came the profile of Kinnari, She was from USA, divorced and single mother. I felt this was a right match. A divorced mother who has had her own set of struggles in life, I thought might be small efforts from my side would make her happy. 

We initially emailed each other and then started talking on skype. I liked her and seemed her feelings also being reciprocated. Then our parents spoke on phone and skype. We always took extra effort to adjust our schedules for skype talk due to time difference. 

Accepting a kid was the most difficult part of the whole deal. I had no experience being a parent. I spoke to Puran on skype sometimes. but being a full time parent was little hard to jump in to. but I took the plunge and sailed through. 

She had issues with my smoking and sought my help to convince her parents on that front. That too was crossed. She also took efforts to regularly keep in touch with my parents and relatives and both kinnari and puran were accepted with open arms. Not a single eyebrow raised. 

Then came the million dollar  question which would change the whole course of the story of apply ever after to struggles ever after. Where will we live after marriage?

She live in US and I lived in India. She had an average job. I had an decent job. She was surviving, I was doing what i loved doing and getting well paid for it. I never ever wanted to move to any other country. 

But the regular discussions and late night talks make you feel you are in love. I was apprehensive about being uprooted from everything i knew and thrown in to new world. She felt life is better in USA. Kinnari was from a Patel family with most of the family settled in USA. She was born and brought up in India but like most Patel's married in to USA with in family and moved there. Following her divorce her parents followed her to USA and settled there. She being a Patel I could understand her leaning towards USA and having dollar dreams but was I ready to take one more plunge. 

My head said no, but these are the matters of the heart.